The opportunity the plebiscite gives Christians

Christians in Australia have been given an opportunity by the plebiscite that has been recently announced. But I'm not talking about the opportunity to have our say. I'm not talking about your opportunity to bring about the result that you'd like to see in Australia.

I'm talking about the opportunity to make scared LGBTQI people feel safe and loved by Christians.

And I think it's the most important opportunity that we've had for some time.

According to stories like this one, many within the LGBTQI community are scared. Scared that the plebiscite will be hugely traumatic. So much so that Bill Shorten went on the attack last Thursday, telling Malcolm Turnbull that he will be personally "responsible for every hurtful bit of filth that this debate will unleash." LGBTQI people are are scared of the next few months of debate. And, of course, many of them are us. Members of our churches.

And what many Australians are expecting to hear from the public voices of Christianity is 'hurtful filth'. Things that hurt them to the core. That invalidate their humanity and exclude them from mainstream society.

If I wasn't cisgender and other-sex attracted, I suspect I'd be scared too. And maybe I'd have grown up being scared. I know many same-sex attracted Christians have.

Now the odd dodgy buzzfeed article claims that these fears have already been realised, but I'm not convinced that they have yet. And I'm praying it stays untrue.

You see Christians in Australia have the chance to do something incredible. To show that we don't just claim the name of Jesus, the guy who died for those who opposed him, but that we're also a bit like him. To stand in the storm of disagreement, and to NOT hurl insults, retaliate or belittle. But instead, to seek the welfare of the 'opponent', no matter what.

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Brothers and sisters, we have the power to reduce fear in a sector of our population. To enable scared people to slowly relax and take a breath. And even, perhaps, to feel welcomed and loved. If we ever hope for them to come to trust Jesus, what better way for them to come to think him trustworthy?

I think that this is the great opportunity here, regardless of how you plan to (or not to) vote. Christians cannot control the result of the plebiscite in either direction. But we are fully in control of our behaviour in the discussion in the lead-up to it. How we speak now, for me, will tell me how serious we are about Jesus' mission to seek and save.

Can you imagine what would it be like if LGBTQI people come away from the plebiscite feeling shocked at how Christians cared about them and their lives? At how they listened with care and concern? Can you imagine the surprise if the one thing that was obvious about the Christians speaking to this issue is that they made it their highest priority to love those they're in dialogue with?

This is our great opportunity, sisters and brothers.

It will require a lot of effort. We'll have to care more about the person we're talking to than about getting our point across. We'll have to listen more than we speak. We'll have to check every FB post to see if we'd like the same point made towards us. We'll have to resist straw-manning and

To write this post well would take more time than I've got. And you lot will probably do a better job of writing the rest of it than me anyways. So, in that spirit, I've got a couple of thoughts on what we'll need to do in order to take this opportunity, but I'll need your help to work out the rest.

Think about how it'll be heard

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In a word, we need empathy. Love requires it.

And that means that we need to think on one extra level even about the construction and logic of our arguments. Not just about how we express them.

What this means is that we can't just make arguments that are loving from our perspective, we need to be sensitive to how they're heard. People with a different story for the world will hear different things in different ways, so we need to understand . Which means, as I've said above, we need to listen well and often. Those who hold opposing views will hold them very deeply.

Be careful accusing someone of having an agenda

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Of course people have them. So do you. It's a result of having a story about the world, a vision for the good life. You want everyone else to have it too.

But for every activist with an 'agenda' (like their counterpart on the other 'side' will have one too) there are average LGBTQI folk whose agenda is simply wanting to feel included in society in a full way. Terming a certain group as having an agenda tends to be (a) easy to refute and ridicule and (b) can be seen as targeting people that you didn't intend to.

Loving even if it's unfair

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There may be filth and vitriol slung. But I pray that it's not from Christians. No matter what we perceive the provocation to be. Even if there is completely unfair provocation.

Our model/example/leader/lord is Jesus Christ. Who spent his time on the cross praying that God would forgive the people who were killing him.

Following Jesus leads us to a road far harder than simply treating people who disagree with us fairly, it involves giving them grace. Bestowing on them a level of favour that the situation doesn't call for. That you may not feel that they deserve.

We have the opportunity to walk the road of Christ. To not return anger for anger, insult for insult. But to lovingly plead with God to bless the people who feel that we're against them. Because we're not against them. Right?

This plebiscite is an opportunity to make an entire community surprised by love. How good would that be?

What tips do you have for helping us to love people like Jesus over the next few months?